How To Help Someone

SAFETY ALERT!    Computer, telephone, tablet, and internet usage can be monitored by abusers -- remotely and without a user's knowledge -- and device history can be impossible to clear completely. If you think your internet and/or device usage may be tracked, use a safe friend's cell phone or computer. Most public libraries have computers and internet for public use.
 
What You Can Do To Help A Friend Who Is Being Abused:
  1. To discuss your concerns with someone who understands, call our hotline at 970-247-9619.
  2. Educate yourself about resources that can help.
  3. Listen. Believe your friend. You may the first person he/she has trusted to tell.
  4. Tell your friend that abuse is not their fault and that no one deserves to be abused.
  5. Be supportive and let your friend know that help, including our confidential hotline, is available.  
  6. Make every effort to not be judgmental.
  7. Encourage her/him to call our hotline anytime: 970-247-9619
  8. Don't assume that leaving is the best and safest choice for your friend at this time, as violence can escalate when a person leaves an abusive relationship. If your friend is scared to leave, respect that and encourage her/him to call our hotline to discuss safety planning strategies tailored to that particular situation.

 

What You Can Do To Help Someone Who Is Abusing Another Person
  1. Don't ignore the abuse. Hold them accountable for their actions, as long as it does not put you in danger.
  2. Encourage him/her to seek help.
  3. Call our hotline for further information and assistance.

 

Ways To Make Ending Domestic Violence Your Business
  1. Cultivate a respectful attitude toward women in your family and at your workplace. Avoid behaviors that demean or control women.
  2. When you are angry with your partner or children, respond without hurting or humiliating them. Model a non-violent, respectful response to resolving conflicts in your family. Call a domestic violence or child abuse prevention program for their help if you continue to hurt members of your family.
  3. If you have a friend or co-worker who is afraid of her partner or who is being hurt, offer her your support and refer her to the 24-hour Alternative Horizons hotline at 970-247-9619.
  4. Learn about domestic violence services in your community. Contribute your time (volunteer!), resources or money. Call 970-247-4374 to find out more.
  5. Call the police if you see or hear violence in progress.
  6. Talk to your friends and neighbors when they belittle women, make a joke about violence, or ignore a battered woman.
  7. Write to movie producers, movie companies, internet businesses, video game producers and TV stations to speak out about violence against women.
  8. Develop a woman's safety campaign in your workplace, neighborhood, school or house of worship. Build a consensus among your colleagues and neighbors that abusive behavior and language is unacceptable.
  9. Co-sponsor a citizens' monitoring group with your local domestic violence program to insure that law enforcement officers, judges and probation and parole personnel receive training about domestic violence and enforce the law.
  10. Examine your own life for violence and oppressive behaviors. Try to live a violence-free life. Consider taking a class, or reading a book, on Nonviolent Communication (NVC, also called compassionate communication or collaborative communication).